I used to struggle massively with people telling me who I who I was/am. It would frustrate me but more than that, on some level, it would torture me. It would eat away at me no matter how much I told myself to stop it from getting to me that much. I'd feel obsessed with wondering if what someone said was true- even if, most of the time, it wasn't a negative thing!
I don't think I put myself through this nearly as much (I think it's a very rare occurrence that I do!) anymore and it's so important that we just don't! Unless people are criticising us constructively and in order to help us or others, we definitely don't need acknowledge ignorant or careless comments- or comments that we take a bad way because we see it differently to the way the speaker has seen it/meant it.
I think there were a few ways I could have tackled these situations better. First of all, I could have just forgotten about them. I wish I did. A lot of comments I can remember because I drilled the into my heart (metaphorically). I guess if I felt so frustrated, though, I definitely should have talked them out with the person. Especially if they were a friend! I expect I would have found a lot of comfort from this. Or I could have simply written out what I was thinking and I might have come to my own conclusion which would have settled my thoughts.
Obviously who I am is incredibly crucial to my being. And it's definitely more important for me to know who I am than anyone else. As long as who I am is good with me - even if I want to change a few things - then I'm heading in the right direction. If I need to buck up or sort myself out on some levels, then as long as I'm working on it, who I am is goo with me!
Who I am is loyal, kind, silly and happy. And that's all so important to me. Let's remember all of the awesome things about ourselves please! Because there are so many!
Loyal & Kind,
The Girl in the Moonlight.
P.S. I am blogging twice a day this March and you can read my last post HERE!