In December I wrote THIS post where I experienced something that really cheered up my day and opened my eyes to the happy world rather than the slightly selfish one I was wrapped up in for a couple of hours. However all within an hour my view on the world wavered slightly. There was something I experienced that really disturbed me and made me feel quite gutted. First of all, though, when I was thinking about this post, I felt like the video I've embedded would portray another message that fits in well with the tone of this post.
In this video, the model, Cameron Russell outlines that "image is superficial." She says young aspiring models want to hear "if you were a little bit skinnier and you have shinier hair, you will be so happy and fabulous" and yet she is, after having accomplished this due to winning a "genetic lottery", insecure. The honesty of this video blew me away and made it completely clear that beauty is not defined by what you see on the tin. She exclaims that these girls asking her about modelling, longing to be in her position should want to be the president or other such roles. This speech has really stuck with me - she clearly proves herself have something important to say.
So, I'll tell you what happened.
I was in a bookstore and passed a girl that must have been no older than fourteen. She said to her friend, "I'm dieting and my mum doesn't know. I want to lose some weight."
I felt - and still feel - absolutely stunned.
Synonymous with the age fourteen (or less and above) should be happiness and ease and comfort in the "difficult stage" of adolescence. That girl should not be worrying about her weight and counting calories and other such things that the idea of her doing made me want to perform a speech to her. It wasn't because she really didn't need to lose any weight that bothered me; it was that she should be focussing on building good friendships, learning about life and trying hard at school.
Obviously, when it comes to being healthy, it's a different story. Yet, even then, appearance is so unimportant.
I don't doubt for a second that other generations have had this concept in mind growing up: beauty is skinny and beauty is everything. However, I am for ever hearing people my age obsess over their weight and truly believe that they have to keep working to reach this perfect standard.
There are two things I know:
- When it comes to beauty, inside or out, there is never set rules as to what defines it
- Success is not defined by beauty
Raindrops & Roses,
The Girl in the Moonlight.